Rules...?
A lot of these self-help gurus out there, claim that you, by listening to their cd’s and audio, can change your whole life, in as little as 30 days or less.
When you start to work on yourself and your personality, it is important to understand, that you are not a new person before next dawn. These things takes time. But we do change all the time. Small changes. The key is to control these changes and to make sure that you are moving in the right direction.
Just remember that this is a life long journey, and try to enjoy it all the way…
I will in the following try to slighty touch these subjects; you could, if you like, call the some sort of guidance rules:
· Accept the situation, the way it is.
· Take responsibility.
· Go to work on youself, not others.
· Create or build a self image that you like.
· There is no such thing as failure.
· Hang around people who already are successfully.
· Know the difference between short- and long term satisfaction.
· Keep growing.
Accept the situation the way it is:
To change something, or to make a difference, you have to look at the realities.How else, should you know what to change?
Take a craftsman, he is building a garage, he got 15 square feet to build at, but back home, he made a sketch of a garage measuring 10x20 feet.
If the craftsman won’t accept realities, and start building anyway, his project will fail (well, nor exactly, but more on that later…)
The same applies when you are going to change something in your life, or something about your personality, if you don’t know (or wont accept) the situation as it is right now, you will find that the road to success will be harder and longer than needed.
If you have the map, and know your destination, but have no clue what so ever, of where you are right now, it will be quite difficult to end up at the right destination.
Either you could find out where you are on the map right now, or you could just start walking, but chances are big, that you are going in the wrong direction.
So therefore, first priority must be to find you exact location, and be true to yourself.
Only then will you be able to move yourself in the right direction on the path of life…
Take Responsibility:
When you know where you are, and where you won’t to go, take responsibility for your own life. No one else is going to do this for you. You are the ONLY person who really cares about you.
And you are the only person, who can make these changes you want to make.
Accept that this is you life, and this is where you are now.
Make a commitment to yourself, about what you want to change, and that you are going to move in the right direction. Every day. It really doesn’t matter how fast you are going to be there, the only thing that matter, is that you are moving a bit closer every day.
Go to work on yourself, not others.
It is so much more easy to change one person, than it is to change the whole world.
Therefore you need to focus on working on you, and not others.
Thereby not said, that you shouldn’t pass on what you learn on you way, just try to remember your goals, and set yourself first.
Build an inner photo of a perfect you, and keep moving towards it:
Later, on this blog, I will write an article to cover this subject in more details, but I will slightly touch the subject now.
It all depends on setting goals. This is a technique where you will visualize youself as you would like to be, on all areas. Body, mind, finance and socially. When you have created this image in your mind, you’ll be able to see it infront of you, when times get rough, or when you have doubts about your path…
You could compare it to IKEA furniture. Inside the box is a lot of pieces, and a step by step guide telling you what to do. But sometime, you just need to know what it should look like, when finished.
This is what your self image is all about. Knowing what you are moving towards.
But in the near future I’ll write an article explaining what to do in details.
There is no such thing as failure:
Remember the story about the craftsman. Well all he has to do, to eliminate failure in this particular case, is to take a step back, look at the situation and learn something from it. Then suddenly it isn’t a failure anymore, but a success. In this case he could easily learn, to be more prepared, and visit the building grounds and measure, before going back home and start drawing. This will save him a lot of work in the future.
If you eliminate failure from your inner dictionary, you have are already taken a giant leap towards your goals. It is so much more easier to do things and take some changes when you know you can’t fail.
Think about, and from now on, everytime something didn’t work out as planned, learn from it.
Next you could ask yourself: “If I know I couldn’t fail, what would I do”?
Hang with people who already have success, and are as you want to be:
If you spend some time with those who are as you would like to be, then after a while, you’ll start thinking like those.Take and old married couple for instance. They are actually starting to look like eachother, both in looks and in their way of thinking. There are a longer scientific explanation for these things, we wont go so far today, but the point is, that people have effect on each other.
Both negative and positive, by the way.
So it might be appropriate, to mention, that while you should focus on, spending time with creative, energetic and fun people, try at the same time, to eliminate anyone with a negative influence. Don’t worry, it will happen automaticly over time, but why slow the process…
Learn to know the difference between short and long term effects:
Imagine that you are going to eat a whole plate of chocolate. The short term effect, is that it gives you some kind of satisfaction. It tastes good. It melts on the tounge. Delicius.
But after the whole plate, and maybe even a couple of haour later, your enercetic niveau are falling, you starting to feel tired, your bloodsugar is going low.
If you ate a plate of chocolate every day, imagine now, what lang term effect this would have on you, on lets say a year from now…
Not good right.
If you consider these three effects on your body, mind, healt and so on, evertime you are going to do something (not only eating), then you’ll probaply find, that a lot of your actions, may have a nice short term effect, but what about the long term effect of your actions?
Keep growing:
This part almost speaks for itself.
Try to move a bit closer to your destination every day.
As I wrote a bit earlier, it really doesn’t matter how fast you are moving, as long as you are moving. And in the right direction offcourse.
Try to learn something new everyday, and learn from your mistakes, and thereby eliminating failure from your life.
Keep on going, and have fun. Enjoy life...
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