A uniqie ability

Today I’m going to write a bit about abilities.
We all have something we are good at, and some we aren’t.
How do you know what to do with your life?

"Find all the things you suck at, and don’t do ‘em.
At some point you’ll only have the things left you are good at doing.
And then you know what to do with your life."

Another approach would be to reverse the process.
First, find out what you are good at, and then work on the other things.

I believe in development. But I also believe in a unique ability.
We all have one. But we do not all know what it is.
And that is the purpose of this article, to help you find that unique ability.

David Deida wrote in his book “The way of the superior man”;

Each of us is born with a potential unique ability that has four characteristics:

1) It is a superior ability that other people notice and value.
2) We love doing it, and want to do it as much as possible.
3) It is energizing both for us and others around us.
4) We keep getting better, never running out of possibilities for improvement.

These are the four characteristics of David Deida’s idea of superior ability.
I recommend that you spend a bit of time thinking of this. Especially if you are the slightest bit interested, in finding your life purpose.

This will not give you the answer to the question “what is my purpose”, but it will get you some of the way. When you realize your superior ability, and welcome it into your life, then when your are ready to start the progress of finding your purpose, you’ll already have travelled a great distance towards your goal.

Think about this.
If you really think this through, you may come to a realisation, which could be a turning point in your life.
I did.

Overcoming fears

“The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER
you do it, not before you do it.” (“Archie Gates” in “Three kings”).

One thing is for sure when we are talking about courage. When you spend an amount of energy doing something you are afraid of, regardless of the outcome, the energy used on performing this particular action, transforms into self-esteem energy afterwards. Regardless of the result.

It is not the result, but the action itself that counts.
Sure, there are some actions better than others, and it is up to your decision skill, to determinate what action are best and most valuable in the current situation, but we’ll leave that to another time.

And basically that is all there is to it.
Look at it this way, if you are afraid of a certain thing, let’s say public speaking. Then the first step is to make a decision to actually overcoming your fear, and make a public speech (don’t go and make speech on national television or something else, that’ll make you blackout, start with a few people, at a birthday party or something).
First time you do it, you will probably shake all over the body and have a hard time concentrating, but afterwards (assuming you’re still alive…), you’ll have a feeling of overcoming both your fears and your mind. You’ll have a feeling of accomplishment, and I bet you’ll feel great, regardless of the outcome.
Remember the saying “What doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger”?
In terms of personal development, this is so very true. Unfortunately it doesn’t apply to all areas of life. Smoking and drinking for instance.

Then take your personal challenge a step up, make a speech in front of 20 instead of 10, and keep advancing…
After you’ve done 10-15-20 times, you won’t fear it anymore. Because you know you can and that it won’t kill you.

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More on money for blogging (Blogvertise)

I were just randomly surfing the internet and blogs, when I tripped over this: www.blogsvertise.com

This is yet another site, who establishes contact between you (the blogger) and varies companies, who will pay you for writing about their products.

I wrote about this concept in the “how to get rich (part 4) – money for blogging”, if you haven’t read this yet, do so now. Please.

The very good thing with blogvertise is first of all, you don’t need to have a very fameus blog, and there are no requeriments for the age your blog.

This means that you could actually start a new blog today, write a few interesting articles, and then go and sign up with www.blogsvertise.com.

So check ‘em out, I’m sure you’ll find the concept interesting.

Bye for now, have fun and enjoy life.

How to get rich (part 4) - Get Paid For Blogging

Being paid for blogging is a concept there is getting more and more visible the last couple of years.
Basically it’s all about waking the little journalist inside of you, and rent your writing abilities out to big and smaller companies who have discovered the advantage in this new form of advertising.

Example:
A firm launches a new product, and chooses as a part of their advertising strategy, to use bloggers help them getting the word out.
In stead of just using some fancy website banners, they actually pay the bloggers to write a few nice words about their product.

A blogger is signed up with a site, which primary and single purpose is to establish contact between the firms and the bloggers.
Here the blogger log in at his private area and can chooses between couples of tasks, and then write a small article and a couple of days after, the payment wait at his paypal account.

This is actually very simple; the ethics on the other hand is discussable. Some believes that this form of advertising will ruin the blogging culture, and especially make the readers unsure of which content are the bloggers own personal opinion and which are paid for.
My own personal beliefs are that there is nothing to be afraid of.
New blogs are born every ten seconds. And only a small percentage will survive, and the again, only a small percentage of those blogs will be visited by others, than the writers friends and family.
After all, if the blogger is ethical and true to his readers, he would never write about a product, he couldn’t vote for.

There is also a “sister” to this kind of advertising. Shvoong.com is a perfect example.
You choose a book or website, write a review, and submit it to their site.
They won’t pay you big time at once, but instead they are using adsense or a similar product, to support their website, and the more visitors who’ll read your articles the more you’ll get paid. It is as simple as that.

And then there are the last (and most intelligent solution, in my opinion) alternative.
Write your blog in a community.
A community is basically a giant blog, with several writers (some times many thousands), and instead of setting your blog up with adsense, and using time creating traffic (which can be vary hard to do btw.), you’ll get the traffic they already have, and in return you’ll share some of your adsense income with the community-site.
The only disadvantage to this concept, is that you’ll have to share your trafiic with all the other writers. This is something you’ll have to calculate yourself. But remember that the traffic on such site is quality traffic, and most visitors actually read your posts, and then again some small percentage click the adsense links…

If you combine this last method with a classical blog (your own blog), and post your articles on both sites, you’ll in the long run get lots of traffic and hence lots of $.
Be sure to read the terms and conditions on the varius sites, so you don’t end up breaking some rules.


Articles written FOR OTHERS on YOUR SITE:

Reviewme (they will only accept if your blog is somehow known allready)
PayPerPost
Blogvertise (They dont have any requirements regarding the age of your blog and etc.)

Your articles on other blogs/sites:

Blogfeast (write blogposts on their site, and share the adsense (90% to you)
Shvoong (reviews of books, webpages and translations)

Similar for all methods are, that you’ll get paid to write. And even though most bloggers write to write and not to get paid, it’s not a bad deal anyhow.

Please leave a comment with your views on the subject.